permanent makeup. Their answers just may inspire you to overcome your
For Tara Wilke,
choosing to embrace her natural gray hair color was a decision
inspired by her frequent business trips to the South. Wilke and her
husband own McNabb & Risley, a fine home furnishings store located
in Thiensville, and her role as creative director requires her to
travel South to buy merchandise for the store. She says she admires
how many Southern women choose not to color their hair but still look
"so chic and polished."
She first showed
signs of "going gray" in her mid-30s and began highlighting
her hair to cover the gray. That changed early last year — a year
that included not only her decision to stop coloring her hair, but
also her 60th birthday. "At 60, it’s not about trying to look
young or beautiful," she says. "For me, it’s about
embracing my age and looking my personal best."
Tara chose to go
gray at age 60
She adds that
she never felt any pressure to look younger — something she owes all
to her mother, who is of Italian descent. "While the U.S. focuses
on youth culture, Italian women are taught at an early age that they
can and will be beautiful throughout their entire lives,"
explains Wilke. "My mother taught me that your age is only a
number and that it should not define you."
closely with her hair stylist, Trent Noah at Urszula and Company in
Brookfield, to ensure the process was a seamless one. "One of the
biggest things of the process is being ready for that big
change," says Noah, who adds that the growing out period varies
from person to person. Fortunately for Noah, Wilke was more than ready
for her new ‘do. "I love my gray hair and what it represents to
me," she says.
When asked when
she feels most beautiful, Wilke’s answer is a testament to her
well-rounded lifestyle. "I feel most beautiful when I am being
creative and productive at work, riding my bike, kayaking, and
surrounding myself with people I love and who love me," she says.
overcoming a certain beauty fear may mean helping out a good cause,
too. Such was the case for John Perszyk of Franklin, who cut 9 inches
off his hair last December. Perszyk donated the hair to Hawk’s Locks
for Kids, an organization established by Green Bay Packers linebacker
A.J. Hawk and his wife, Laura. The charity collects donated hair for
children who have lost their hair due to chemotherapy and other
to feel selfish about keeping it (the hair)," remembers Perszyk.
So he called his best friend’s girlfriend, Jenny Kopp. Kopp is a
hair stylist at Impressions Day Spa in Mequon. "I’d been trying
to get him to do it for months and months, but he was so obsessed with
it," laughs Kopp. She creates a customized plan for each of her
clients to make them feel comfortable and excited about their new
look, and Perszyk was no exception. "She gave a lot of insight
and options and most importantly, kept me calm," he adds.
Nine less inches
of hair and a generous amount of positive feedback later, there’s no
denying that Perszyk felt more secure about his decision to cut and
donate his locks. "If you keep hearing positive things about
yourself, you, in turn, think positively," says Perszyk. "I
was a little shocked, of course, but much more confident."
donated nine inches of his hair to Hawk's Locks for Kids.
That new sense
of confidence was felt in his professional life, too. Perszyk has
worked at MKE Sports and Entertainment for almost two years, handling
group ticket sales and game day operations — a job that involves
interacting with clients on nearly a daily basis. "I wanted to
look a little more presentable in a business setting," he says.
"I don’t look like I’m living on the streets anymore. I’m
more clean cut, and I feel more respected."
isn’t exactly a new phenomenon. Its history dates back to the early
20th century, but its emergence as a socially acceptable alternative
to traditional applied makeup has been relatively gradual. The
cosmetic procedure employs tattoos to produce designs that resemble
actual makeup, and common uses include permanent eyeliner, eyebrows or
lip liner, among others.
Betsy Kimmel, a
Fox Point resident and mother of three, had been toying with the idea
of getting permanent eyeliner for years. A few of her friends had
received some form of permanent makeup, but considering Kimmel’s low
tolerance for pain and the very nature of the procedure (a needle does
come uncomfortably close to the eye, after all), she repeatedly pushed
it off. "I’ve signed up every year for the last five years and
would then get cold feet and cancel" recalls Kimmel. But earlier
this year, she finally overcame her fear.
location of choice was Faces II Esthetic Salon in Mequon, where owner
Cheryl Rebholz has been applying permanent makeup since 1992. She
often blends pigments, creating a customized color that best suits her
client’s personality and lifestyle. For Kimmel, she used a
combination of black and teal to enhance Kimmel’s natural beauty and
bright blue eyes. "The color complements her lifestyle,"
explains Rebholz. "She’s active and runs marathons, so a full
black would’ve been out of character."
canceled five appointments before committing to permanent
actual application process, Kimmel says it was less painful than she
expected but felt "like you wanted to itch it very badly."
Rebholz administers a topical anesthetic and ice pack treatment before
each eye-related procedure to minimize discomfort. "It’s a very
strategic process, and everything is sterile," she adds.
And despite her
satisfaction with the results, Kimmel’s answer to our "when do
you feel most beautiful?" question best reflects her dedication
to living an active and healthy life. "I feel most beautiful when
I’m doing yoga," she concludes with a smile.
uncommon for employers to ask more of their employees than what’s
included in their job descriptions. So when Steve "The
Homer" True landed an on-air job at WISN 12 and the network’s
fashion consultant insisted he wear a toupee, True agreed without
hesitation. "It was a trend at the time," he says. "It
did make me look younger, so I can see why." True, who turned 60
last November, first started losing his hair at age 25.
He spent 12
years wearing the toupee — an attribute that quickly became his
signature. "I’d grab my jacket, my hairpiece and two pieces of
tape, and on I went," says True. He was the station’s 5 p.m.
sports anchor, and in 1996, he won the Emmy Award for local sports
broadcasting. True still remembers the day the design of Miller Park
was revealed. "I wanted to open and close my ‘toupee on-air
look’ like how the roof would open and close," he says with a
laugh. "I said on air that this station will be the place where
you can find out if the roof will be open or closed tonight and then I
opened and closed my toupee and said to the anchors, ‘back to you
Marty and Jerry’ and the broadcast went on as usual."
Homer" True nixed the hairpiece after leaving TV news.
For many people,
the action of taking one’s toupee off while on live TV would have
been a terrifying experience, but not for True, who took it in stride.
"It wasn’t hard to do at all since I only wore it during TV
appearances. My situation may have been different than most, but I was
comfortable with it on, it made me look younger and better on TV —
but I was OK without it too."
In 2003, True
said au revoir to the toupee when he transferred to the network’s
radio division. He joined ESPN Wisconsin 540 in 2005, and his main
duty includes co-hosting a daily three-hour talk show, titled
"Homer & Gabe." True counts Al McGuire, Robin Yount and
Aaron Rodgers among his favorite interviewees.
And although his
nickname, "The Homer," traditionally refers to someone who
favors the teams they broadcast, True practices a much less biased
approach. "The first rule of Homerism is that I’m not an
idiot," says True, adding that he refuses to lie about a team’s
potential. That frank, easygoing attitude — something undoubtedly
reflected in his steadfast willingness to sport a toupee — is
something to be admired, that’s for sure.