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Fat and happy: No one tells author Lindy West what to do

May 30, 2016


Lindy West is a defender of bodies: womenís bodies, fat bodies, every bodyís right to exist in whatever way, shape or form, unjudged and unassailed. "Everyone has a body," she says. "We havenít developed brain-in-jar technology yet." Her writing puts forth the unfortunately radical proposition that each personís body is that personís own business.

"It is the thing that most belongs to them. Itís not yours," she points out over sake bombs and edamame dip, pot stickers and ahi tacos. Itís the most basic of truths, but, again unfortunately, it bears pointing out.

Lindy West is a Seattle native, but with her column in The Guardian, sheís become something of an international hero. Lindy West and I worked together at the alternative weekly The Stranger, where I had the vast pleasure of watching her scathing, incisive and hilarious powers unfold.

Lindy West is also my friend, and witnessing how some treated her along the way made me feel angry and helpless ó and, by implication and inaction, like part of the problem. My own bodyís deviation from the norm, through absolutely no virtue of my own, has garnered wondering approval ("How can you be a food writer and stay so skinny?"). Lindyís bodyís deviation from the norm has earned her not just opprobrium, but threats of rape and death, more times that she can count. Working with her ó reading the kind of online comments that she would ultimately attack head-on ó I didnít know what to do.

"I just realized that this thing had been eating at me for so long, and it also had felt like something I needed to keep a secret for so long," she says. "ĎOh, donít write about your body, people will be mean to you, people will make fun of you.í" Which, she notes, did happen ó and in an "acutely painful" way.

"But if people are going to be mean to me and make fun of me anyway, why not take control of the narrative and say something? If you let those people silence you, then you canít advocate for yourself. And you canít make your life better. And you canít own your own life.

"And also, on a really practical level," she says, "once you stop obsessing over being broken and wrong, and you stop starving yourself, and you stop worrying about how many calories youíre eating and how many sit-ups you did that day, it literally frees up time and energy."

Thus began her crusade against the notion that the shape of your body dictates the worth of your being.

"It changed my career, for sure. There was just no going back," she laughs. "Since then, thatís kind of the cornerstone of the kind of writing that I do Ö trying to be really clear, and uncompromising, and stick up for people who arenít being heard."

Since leaving The Stranger, Lindyís also written for Jezebel and GQ; sheís been a key part of the #ShoutYourAbortion campaign. She still spends, as she puts it, "a lot of time getting yelled at on the Internet by people ó mostly men ó whoíre very threatened by noncompliant women Ö Mostly it seems to be because I exist as a fat person without apologizing. And because I talk back to them, and am argumentative, and strident." Until recently, her tagline on Twitter was "Why fat lady so mean to baby-men?"

Sheís reaching the people who are threatened by her ó and who threaten her ó and changing some minds in very surprising ways. One of her many, many fights against individual trolls ó real people, with bodies, who use the anonymity of the Internet to be cruel while remaining hidden ó ended with a startling, humanizing and even beautiful confrontation documented on "This American Life."

Now she has a brand-new book ó her first ó called "Shrill." The subtitle is "Notes from a Loud Woman." Itís a memoir, she explains, "a book about growing up feeling like you donít fit, in both a literal and figurative way. So itís just stories from my life about coming to terms with my body, and learning to live my life not feeling like a work in progress. And learning about feminism, and learning about how to be a partner, just all these things that young women, especially, struggle with Ö I wrote the book that I needed 15 years ago, that I didnít have."

Thereís not much in the book about food per se, but Lindy is a vocal critic of the diet industry. "Itís all a scam Ö it drains women of money, and money is power or whatever ó that seems like a clichť, but itís true ó and it also keeps women locked in this eternal battle against each other, where weíre ranking each other Ö it saps your brain-space, and it doesnít (expletive) work. Which is why itís such a successful industry. It doesnít work."

Present-day food culture also doesnít work, with food porn on one side, the obesity epidemic on the other, and not much in between. You can be fat and left alone, Lindy notes, "but you have to be a good fat person whoís, you know, doing their penance. You have to post pictures on Instagram that prove that you eat salad; otherwise, youíre the bad kind."

Her assertion: "You canít tell people what to eat and what to do with their bodies. And lives are huge and complex Ö Why donít you just campaign for healthier school lunches? Why donít you campaign for longer recess? Why donít we raise the minimum wage so that moms ó or dads ó donít have to work three jobs, and they can be home and cook food for their families? Instead Ö we stigmatize them and call them stupid and fat for feeding McDonaldís to their kids. The whole system is broken, and the only solution people can come up with is to punish the people victimized by that system."

Lindy is, however, seeing improvement. "I think itís incrementally getting better," she says ó more role models, more academics doing important work, more revelations about "The Biggest Loser."

Meanwhile, what can we all do? "Just be nice to the fat people in your life, and donít judge them and tell them what to do," Lindy says. "And listen to them.

"And donít beat yourself up if you eat a doughnut or whatever. Itís OK to have a doughnut. Itís OK to have a doughnut every day, if thatís what makes you happy. We only have one life, so you might as well live it how you want. As long as youíre not murdering people and stuff.

"It is not OK to force-feed a stranger a doughnut every day," she laughs.

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Hereís more of our interview.

Bethany Jean Clement: Did you see The New York Times article about the journal Obesity doing that study following the people that were on "The Biggest Loser"?

Lindy West: The way that they get people to lose weight on "The Biggest Loser" ó and you can read a couple of accounts out there from former contestants who breached their NDAs to talk about it ó they just torture them. They torture them beyond safe medical limits for months, and then act like thatís healthy weight loss, and like those peopleís lives are better now. And itís just heartbreaking to read the way that people are treated. And, then, people watching that at home are like, "Oh, those people are better than me, Iím a failure because I go to Weight Watchers and Jazzercise, and Iím still a size 18 or whatever." And, you know, at a certain point you just have to let your body be your body. You can pursue health and fitness independent of what size you are.

B.J.C.: And the journal study found that people who lost these dramatic amounts of weight then gained it back, and their bodies reacted to this ó

L.W.: Yeah, yeah! So that happens, and we still define that as healthy behavior.

B.J.C.: Thatís success.

L.W.: Thatís success. When itís the opposite of health. Itís CLEARLY unhealthy. It has a negative impact on those peopleís health. And also, itís important to say that people are also free to NOT pursue healthÖ lives are huge and complex, and a lot of people, maybe health isnít on their priority list. Thatís not your businessÖ

Theyíre seeing higher rates of eating disorders in elementary school kids, because of the war on childhood obesity and all this rhetoric about fat kids needing to be fixed. And schools weighing all the kids ó having them stand in a line and be weighed at school, then sending letters home to their parents saying that their kids are too fat. So now you have kids in fifth, sixth, seventh gradeÖ developing anorexia. And itís just like, "COOL." Oh, is that help? Does that make our country healthier?

B.J.C.: So can people who are fat reclaim just enjoying food?

L.W.: Well, people are doing that. Thatís definitely one of the more prominent principles of fat activism, just EATING, unapologetically ó consuming food unapologetically. Which is really HARD. And Iím pretty much at 100 percent ó Iím fine at this point, I can eat whatever I want at a restaurant and not feel self-conscious, MOSTLY. I have maybe like 1 percent of anxiety. But I used to have nothing but anxiety. I used to eat performatively. Because you know that people are watching you, and not just making a judgment about your health, and whether or not you should be eating that, but about your moral character and your intellect and what you contribute to society. So thereís a tremendous amount of pressure. So, yeah, what Iíve seen from fat activists ó itís a lot about reclaiming the act of eating. Like eating for nourishment and joy, rather than the sort of inherently negative punishment or absolution thing.

B.J.C.: It seems clear that most people in the U.S. ó I think most ó have quite a warped relationship with food.

L.W.: Yeah, itís not just fat people. Everyone has a [expletived]-up relationship with food.

B.J.C.: I try to tell stories about politics, and about people, and also about whatís delicious to eat, but I feel like thereís something a lot deeper that needs to happen, where young people ó the people reading your memoir ó young women, probably more specifically, need to have a sea change in how we all relate to food. How do we do that?

L.W.: I donít know ó itís slow. Itís slow. People are so quick to mock even just the term, but fat positivity is so radical, because it intersects with class and race and economicsÖ and gender and all these things. Itís what we put into our bodies, and what our bodies look like, and how much space we take up in the world ó itís fundamental to everyoneís experience, and to the world that we build around us to accommodate our bodies and other peopleís bodiesÖ Itís not frivolous. But yeah, I think itís incrementalÖ

 

 


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