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Instructor
Raina Nemeth 39, and her partner Martin Kelln, 45,
both of Birmingham, Michigan, demonstrate some of the
positions learned at the Partner Yoga for Singles
class at the Center for Yoga in Birmingham, Michigan.
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DETROIT — Yoga helps you improve your
strength, balance and flexibility. But can it get you a date,
too?
That's the concept behind the occasional
Yoga for Singles workshops at the Center for Yoga in
Birmingham, Mich. Taught by Raina Nemeth, who met her
boyfriend in a yoga class, the workshop takes the format of
speed-dating and moves it to the mat.
The idea sprang up when Nemeth noticed many
of her single friends looking for love online as well as
asking for help finding partners so they could attend her
couples' yoga classes.
So she decided to take the concept of
partner yoga — where two people work together in poses that
require lifting and leaning — and use it as a more natural
way to make romantic connections.
"All these people ... spend a lot of
time on the Internet, looking for someone who is perfect on
paper," said Nemeth, 39. "But when they meet, the
connection is just not there. This way, you can feel
organically if there is a connection with someone, without
words getting in the way."
The workshops run 90 minutes on a Saturday
night and typically draw about 30 participants — half men
and half women. Nemeth dims the lights, adds candlelight,
cranks up the heat and plays non-typical yoga music like
Marvin Gaye.
Karen Schultz, 45, is a single mom of two
boys who said she's very picky when it comes to finding a
mate. Her usual response to singles events is to "avoid
them at all costs." But she loves yoga, and goes to
classes nearly every day. She figured, why not try singles
yoga?
"It would be nice to meet
someone," said Schultz, who attended the Feb. 6 workshop.
"But at the very least, I love yoga and figured I'd learn
some new tricks."
She arrived feeling anxious, which Nemeth
said is normal.
"At first, it's totally awkward,"
Nemeth said. "Like a junior high dance."
The participants lay their mats in a circle
facing each other, and introductions are made. Then the men
roll up their mats and join a woman on her mat.
Every three minutes or so, the men rotate to
the next woman's mat, where they work together.
"It's sensual, not sexual," Nemeth
said. "It's nonthreatening in a safe environment. You're
touched and touching someone and being vulnerable."
Within 15 minutes, Nemeth said people are
transformed, laughing and sweating and getting into
compromising positions with people they've just met.
"She makes you OK with it,"
Schultz said. "In one position, she had a guy put his
feet right on top of my thighs. ... Then you fly up in the
air, like you do when you're little kids. You don't know the
person, and it's a little intimate."
In another move, she sat face-to-face in a
man's lap with her arms wrapped around him.
Nemeth said these close encounters help show
whether participants have chemistry with someone — much more
than a typical conversation over dinner can.
"I think yoga focuses you to be in the
moment," Nemeth said. "You really have to pay
attention to what you're doing instead of trying to impress
someone by watching your words. In most dating situations,
you're concentrating on putting out this image of yourself.
Yoga encourages you to be your authentic self. Your
conversation is limited, so you have to be in the moment.
People start to be themselves, they're not worrying about what
everyone is thinking."
After the class last weekend, Nemeth said
one attendee contacted her to ask for another's number. But
it's not always about making an immediate love connection.
"Sometimes there are love
connections," she said. "But some people come to
yoga every day and never talk to each other. This is a good
way to get to know the community you're in every day. So
friendships can be made, and you can learn some new
postures."
Schultz said for her, the classes didn't
result in a date. But she's willing to try it again.
"The chemistry is either there or it's
not," Schultz said. "With one man, I think it was
there."