Pushy people


June 12, 2019


Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about people who think they are entitled to push others aside instead of waiting for their turn. - Heloise


“Dear Heloise: Yesterday, I was waiting at a deli counter, along with a few other people, when a man walked up to the counter and started to rap his large ring on the glass case to demand attention. The deli man walked over to me to take my order (I was next in line), and the man started to slowly shove me aside to place an order. I won’t bore you with what I said, but I made it clear he could wait for his turn like everyone else. If this had been a medical emergency, I wouldn’t have minded, but it was a local deli counter. When did people start losing their manners? Being obnoxious isn’t cute, and women don’t respect men who act rude, crude or low-class.” - Monica N., Atlantic City, N.J.

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are a few suggestions to brighten up your home for very little money:

- Replace old cabinet doorknobs with new ones.

- Buy new throw pillows for the sofa.

- Paint the front door a nice, new, pretty color.

- Plant flowers in the front yard.

- Change out old lampshades for new ones.

- Declutter your home from top to bottom.

- Heloise



Dear Heloise: I took my dog to the vet and discovered he had heartworms. My dog is now on medication to kill the worms, but my vet said dogs should be tested annually. Apparently, cats can also develop heartworms. This is preventable! “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure,” as my granny used to say. Ask your vet if your cat or dog should be on heartworm medication, or check with www.heartwormsociety.org for more information. - Connie L., Tulsa, Okla.


Sweet lullaby

Dear Heloise: Sometimes I’ll hear a song on the radio but don’t know the name of it or the artist. However, if I type in a few words of the lyrics to search on my computer or cellphone, the title, artist and entire lyrics come up. - Myra D., Bellingham, Wash.


Donate pet supplies

Dear Heloise: When my mother’s cat died, Mom had two carriers, three pet beds (two of which were new) and several cans of high-quality cat food. I called a local animal shelter, which was so grateful to get the donation of these items. Please tell your readers that animal shelters always need supplies, and they welcome financial aid as well. So, if you lose a pet, you can help these organizations out by donating items or money to help them as they help animals. - Lana W., Jackson, Wyo.


Letter of laughter

Dear Heloise: After my handyman retired from his full-time job, he thought he’d do just a little handyman work a couple of days a week to keep busy and earn a little extra money. He came over to my house to fix my faucet, and when he went out to his truck, he found 15 notes under the windshield wipers from people needing his services. Retirement over!   - Patty T., Racine

Get back!
June 5, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about people who ignore the need for personal space. - Heloise


“Dear Heloise: I was shopping the other day when I ran into a friend. She’s a very nice person, but if she stood any closer, she’d have been standing on my feet! I’ve met a number of people who don’t respect our need for some personal space. At a deli counter last week, a woman stood so close to me that we might have been mistaken for conjoined twins! There’s no need to do this when talking to someone. Give others some breathing room.” - Ellen R., Anaheim, Calif.

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some other uses for baby powder:

- Use as a dry shampoo.

- Use on sheets to help absorb nighttime perspiration.

- Sprinkle in shoes to keep them fresh.

- Sprinkle on a necklace to help untangle it.

- Heloise


What vaccines do my pets need?

Dear Heloise: Having worked at a veterinarian clinic for over 10 years, I feel qualified to recommend the following vaccines for dogs and cats:

All dogs should get the DHPP vaccine to avoid distemper and parvovirus. They also need a rabies vaccine. Rabies is contagious to all land mammals, including humans.

All cats should get the FVRCP vaccine (to protect against three viruses, including distemper), rabies vaccine and a feline leukemia vaccine. Even if your cat does not go outside, it can still pick up this viral killer from other animals.

Your pets are your responsibility, so vaccinate yearly.

- Raymond D. in San Antonio



Dear Heloise: I have a nasty habit of forgetting appointments for things like the doctor, hairdresser, dentist, etc., so I started writing a note to myself on sticky notes and posting them on my bathroom mirror. Now I no longer miss an appointment because the notes remind me.

- Irene H., Beaverton, Ore.


Learn to swim

Dear Heloise: With warm weather here, a lot of children will be playing around lakes, the ocean and swimming pools. While float toys are nice, it’s far more important to teach your little ones to swim. If you can’t teach them, then enroll them in a swim class so that they don’t panic when in water over their heads.

- Grace P., Gainesville, Fla.



Dear Heloise: Summertime is often miserably hot! In many states, it’s illegal to leave your dog in the car in the heat. But whether it’s illegal or not, don’t do it! Some people say that they roll the windows down, but that is not helpful to the animal. If you can’t bring your pet with you when you go indoors to a store, clinic, etc., then DON’T bring it along.

- Brianna F., Muncie, Ind.

P.S. Make certain your dog or cat is microchipped! This is especially true if you travel with your pet.


Kitten season

Dear Readers: We are now getting into kitten season. If you find a stray or homeless kitten, see if an animal organization can find a foster home for it.

- Heloise

I'm not on call!
May 29, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about cosmetic promises that don’t deliver.

- Heloise

“Dear Heloise: Cosmetic companies promise women ‘rejuvenation’ of their skin, hair and nails, and then use a 20-year-old model to illustrate how well their products work. A young woman in her 20s does not need to rejuvenate anything. Even then, the model is airbrushed to perfection. This is a form of body shaming. If you’re over 40, have cellulite, crow’s-feet or liver spots on your hands, are you less worthy of notice or praise?

“Many brilliant, smart, funny women are not great beauties, but they have much to offer this world. I wish cosmetic companies would show real women, not models in their 20s who are beautiful without makeup.”
- Kathy Y., Aberdeen, Md.


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some other items you can use as bird feeders:

- A large milk jug. Cut in half and use the bottom half for seeds.

- A large plastic soda bottle.

- An old teacup.

- A plate you were planning to throw out.

- Heloise


Tax man cometh

Dear Heloise: I agree with the reader who said that property taxes are getting too high, and I’m getting disgusted. Older citizens like myself purchased our homes with the idea that we could remain there the rest of our lives. However, with taxes going up all the time, I doubt I can afford to stay here for much longer. There used to be a cap on property taxes for low-income people, but not anymore. America is taxing senior citizens out of their homes! - A Reader in Indiana

Some states freeze school taxes for people at age 65. Check with your tax office to find out what can be done to help you reduce your property taxes. - Heloise


Cellphone manners

Dear Heloise: To me, it’s inappropriate for someone to drop by for a visit but spend all the time talking with another person on the phone. It’s very rude, and people like that are never invited back.
- Helen R., Manhattan, Kan.


Helen, yes, it is rude. When visiting friends, turn off your phone. You’re there to spend time with that person, not impress people with how popular or important you are. - Heloise


It’s a shame

Dear Heloise: After working with an animal shelter for the past three years, I would like to encourage your readers to spay or neuter their pets.

They should know that a very small percentage of dogs and cats ever find a “forever home,” and several hundred dogs and cats are euthanized every hour in the U.S. because there aren’t enough people willing or able to adopt a pet.

So please spay or neuter your pets! - Anne in San Diego

I'm not on call!
May 22, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about unwanted baby-sitting duties. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: My son and daughter-in-law seem to think I’m a handy baby sitter. Please understand that I dearly love my grandkids, but I can’t always baby-sit for them. I have a life that includes travel, getting together with friends and a part-time job.

“Please let your readers know that being retired does not automatically mean we can baby-sit for our grandkids. Some of us still need to work part time, have physical limitations or don’t want to cancel our plans. We’re not being obstinate; we simply cannot wrap our lives around our children’s schedules. When I can spend time with my grandchildren I do, and I enjoy it. At present, my daughter-in-law is not speaking to me because I wouldn’t cancel a doctor’s appointment to baby-sit her three kids. I’m not alone, either. Many of my friends have gone through the same thing.” - Gloria in Wisconsin


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some other uses for coffee filters:

- To polish silver.

- As a bowl cover in the microwave.

- Place under a plant to absorb moisture.

- To clean a mirror or window.

- Heloise


Lost rings

Dear Heloise: I have a habit of removing my rings when I wash my hands in a public place. To keep from losing them, I do one of two things: I either put them in my pocket or thread them on the stem of my glasses. I learned this the hard way when I forgot to put my rings back on until after I had left a restaurant! Sadly, they were gone, and no one turned them in to the management. - Beverly T., Mount Pleasant, S.C.


The brown and the white

Dear Heloise: We use a lot of eggs in my home, so the only way I can tell the fresh ones from the older eggs is to buy brown eggs one week and white the next week. Works well for me.
- Patricia B., Tiverton, R.I.


Soaking your nibs

Dear Heloise: The writing end of a fountain pen is called a nib, and here is one way to unclog it. Heat vinegar in the microwave for about 18 to 20 seconds, then place the nib in the vinegar and let it sit overnight. The next morning, your fountain pen nib should be clean and unclogged. - Harold F., Bellefontaine, Ohio


Police are there to help

Dear Heloise: Recently, I saw a mother grab her very young son and threaten him with calling the police and sending him to jail. The boy couldn’t have been any older than 6 or 7. This may be a short-term way to get him to behave, but he needs to learn that the police are there to help him and keep him safe instead of making him terrified of a police officer. - Barbara L., Boise, Idaho


Barbara, you’re correct. Children should NEVER be threatened with jail as a form of punishment for misbehaving, or taught to be afraid to ask for help from the police. - Heloise

No discipline?
May 15, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is from a schoolteacher who claims students lack discipline:

“Dear Heloise: For over 20 years, I’ve taught school and seen a number of policy changes that were enacted to help students but have had the reverse effect. Students come to class without homework and tell me they didn’t feel like doing it, or hand in sloppy work with grammatical errors and terrible spelling. With poor grades and a lack of self-discipline, they’ll never make it in college.

“How can we get parents more involved with their children? How can I stress the importance of spending time (NOT money) with their children?” - Lenore N. in Michigan


Lenore, parents need to put down the cellphone, turn off the TV and computer, and spend time with their kids. Our children are the only truly important thing we will leave behind. - Heloise


Fast facts

Dear Readers: Here are a few safety measures for the kitchen:

- Always pat dry the foods you plan to fry. Hot grease and water cause splattering, which can be both dangerous and painful.

- Never leave cooking food unattended.

- Always turn the handle on a pot away from the front of the stove to avoid anyone knocking it off while walking by.

- When taking a lid off a pot, always tilt it away from you.

- Always keep a fire extinguisher in the kitchen.

- Heloise


Wood polishing

Dear Heloise: I have real wood paneling in my new home, but I’m worried about cleaning it. I don’t want a waxy buildup from furniture polish. What do you suggest? - Vera W., Harwood, Md.


Vera, I have a solution that cleans fingerprints, mild dirt and dust off wood paneling, but as always, test on an inconspicuous place first.

Mix 1 part white vinegar with 2 parts water. Dip a clean rag in the solution, wring it out to remove excess water and wipe the surface of the wood. Dry and polish with a clean cloth.

If you want inexpensive cleaning ideas that work well without using harsh chemicals, then you’ll enjoy my pamphlet Heloise’s Homemade Cleaning Solutions. To order a copy, send $5, along with a stamped (70 cents), self-addressed, long envelope, to: Heloise/Cleaning Solutions, P.O. Box 795001, San Antonio, TX 78279-5001. Or you can order it online at www.Heloise.com. FYI: Vinegar alone also works great for removing price tags, cleaning the barbecue grill and loosening burned-on foods in pots and pans. - Heloise


Foot massage

Dear Heloise: My job requires that I stand for long periods of time. By the time I get home, my feet are killing me. I take a tennis ball and place it under my foot while I’m seated and roll it back and forth. This is an easy way to give my tired feet a massage. - Bernadette V., Manchester, N.H.

No wedded bliss for this location?
May 8, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about destination weddings:

“Dear Heloise: Why have destination weddings become so popular? My niece is getting married in Hawaii, which is thousands of miles from family and friends. Neither the bride nor the groom lives in Hawaii, so it’s not as though they’ve established a life there. Although I’ve received an invitation, I can’t afford to go right now, nor can most of the people invited. Even the girl my niece wanted as her maid of honor said she can’t go since she just started a new job and can’t get the time off. The bride’s parents aren’t happy about it, nor are the groom’s. Am I wrong in thinking a destination wedding is a little selfish?”
- Nancy E., Waterbury, Conn.


Nancy, well, it’s inconvenient to get married so far away from family and friends, but couples are entitled to the wedding of their choice. Readers, what do you think about destination weddings? - Heloise


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some uses for paper towel cores:

- Wrap Christmas lights around for storage.

- Store extension cords inside.

- Hold plastic grocery bags.

- Spray-paint silver and give to young kids to use as lightsabers.

- Heloise


Novel garden path

Dear Heloise: Everyone likes to have a unique yard, so for my garden path, I used tree slices as steppingstones. My husband cut 2-inch slices of a thick log. We lined the path with newspaper, wet it down with a hose, then poured about 2 inches of fine sand over the newspaper. We placed the wood slices on the sandy bed, then poured fine gravel in between the slices. It’s easy and economical, and the newspaper keeps weeds at bay. - Verity M., Sherman, Ky.


Kitty cat

Dear Heloise: I love animals, but I’d really rather keep my neighbor’s tomcat away from my garden. Is there anything that will deter this sweet kitty from spraying my plants and flowers? - Lois G., Carson City, Nev.


Lois, try using vinegar around the outer edges of your garden, or a sprinkling of chopped onions or chives also might do the trick. Most cats do not like a strong scent. You can also try cayenne pepper, but use that as a last resort. - Heloise


Crows vs. squirrels

Dear Heloise: Help! We have crows that are invading our squirrels’ tree. What can I do to stop the crows from taking their peanuts? We refuse to stop feeding our squirrels, but we need to get rid of the peanut-eating crows. - Yvonne S., Covina, Calif.


Yvonne, there are a few things you can try. Hang wind chimes close to the feeder or hang something shiny, such as a mirror or strips of metal. Birds dislike both of these. You also can buy a plastic owl and hang it close to the feeder or from a tree. Crows are intelligent birds, and when they’ve found a place with food, they’ll be difficult to deter. Good luck! - Heloise

The value of older workers
May 1, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about the lack of employment for older workers:

“Dear Heloise: There are many experienced, capable people over the age of 45 who want to continue to work, even if only part time, but no one will hire them. We’ve kept up with technology, become experts at problem-solving and have an old-fashioned work ethic that says you go to work every day, on time, and do your best. Yet an employer never stops to think that a great many of us are willing to work until we’re 70 or 75 because we’re in good health and want to stay engaged in the world around us. We’ve made our mistakes years ago and can help others avoid those pitfalls. So why won’t employers hire the older population of this country?” - Peter and Lois D., Pontiac, Mich.

Peter and Lois, that’s an excellent question. With so much to offer, why don’t employers hire more people over 50? - Heloise

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some uses for junk mail envelopes:

- Keep one in the glove compartment to hold receipts for parking, credit cards, etc.

- Keep loose change in them for parking meters or toll fees.

- Keep seeds in them for next season’s planting.

- Place coupons in them so you won’t lose them before you get to the store.

- Heloise


Don’t flush!

Dear Heloise: Please tell your readers to NEVER flush anything down the toilet other than toilet paper and anything created by their body’s digestive system. So many items can clog the sewer system and cause a backflow into the home. It doesn’t matter if you are on the city water system or a septic tank, never put these things down your toilet:

grease or oil
disposable/flushable wipes
tampons or pads
kitty litter
paper towels

- Freddie J., Springfield, Ill.


The latest scam

Dear Heloise: There’s a new scam going around that people need to be aware of. This latest attempt to extort money from people comes in an email - usually it looks like it’s from a friend - and claims you’ve been looking at porn sites, which they will show to all your friends because they have intercepted your email list of contacts. They demand money (over $500) to just go away and leave you alone, promising they’ll never contact you again.

The email I got looked as though it came from a friend who died three years ago. Since I’ve never received mail from the great beyond, I opened it to find a chatty letter from an illiterate hacker demanding money. Since I don’t visit porn sites and never have, I’m not worried. However, many people do go to those places on the web and shouldn’t fall victim to this extortion and threats. - Norah in Providence, R.I.

Just drive!
April 24, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about people and their driving habits. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: Driving a vehicle can become so familiar that some people naturally get a little careless about using their turn signals, coming to a complete stop at stop signs and tailgating other drivers. But those pale when compared with cellphones: texting and answering calls. A couple of years ago, on graduation night from high school, five young girls were killed when the driver was texting behind the wheel. Five young lives gone in only a few seconds; five families who had to bury otherwise healthy, young daughters. If you are driving, DON’T answer your phone and don’t text! Whatever the phone call or text is about, it can wait until you’ve stopped driving.” - Joanie in California.


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some new uses for transparent tape:

- Repair hems when the thread has been pulled out.

- Cover a label on a package to keep it from being ripped off.

- When on a trip, attach a note on a mirror to tell your travel mate where you are.

- Tape prices on items at a garage sale.

- Heloise


Fragrant shoes

Dear Heloise: My sister often sends me beautifully scented soaps for gift-giving occasions. I always save the wrapper and put it inside my shoes or in a drawer. I take it out when I wear the shoes. These wrappers work as a free air freshener! - Joan, via email


Smelly books

Dear Heloise: I wanted to store some of my dad’s books for him, but I didn’t want that “musty, old” smell that books can get. So, I used a large plastic bin and placed the books inside. Then I took an old sock, put some activated charcoal inside it and tied up the open end. I put the sock with charcoal inside the plastic bin with the books. A year later, the books were still as fresh as the day they were bought.
- Lucy L., Oakdale, Minn.


Hint from him

Dear Heloise: I have tried vinegar, and it works wonderfully, besides being inexpensive and versatile. For window cleaning, I prefer to use a squeegee versus paper towels or cloths.

A clean towel is necessary to wipe the bottom edge. To avoid the frustration of seeing streaks, I use up-and-down strokes (vertical) on one side and side-to-side strokes (horizontal) on the opposite side. This method eliminates the guesswork of going inside or outside if you see streaks. - Rich H., via email


Sheet smarts

Dear Heloise: I scrub out my sink with a used dryer sheet. It has a nubbly texture, which cleans things perfectly. I buff and dry with a paper towel. - David R. in Oregon

Should children get a break?
April 17, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s SOUND OFF is about tax deductions. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: Why are there tax deductions for children? I love kids, but I find it blatantly unfair that people with children get tax deductions for having them, and child care tax credits, too. I realize that at one point it was designed to help parents pay for the costs of raising a child, but in an overcrowded world, should we really be encouraging people to have more than one child? Cutting out the deductions for children would give the government more money to work with and create a much more impartial tax system.”
- Roger K., Falmouth, Mass.


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some uses for leftover bread:

- Cube bread and bake for inexpensive croutons.

- Make into breadsticks by cutting into strips, then brushing with butter or olive oil and sprinkling with seasonings. Bake until crispy.

- Cube bread into very small pieces and use as a topping for casseroles.

- Heloise


Streaky windows

Dear Heloise: I’m getting ready to do my spring-cleaning, but my biggest problem involves my windows. I always make a streaky mess out of them. Do you have any hints for clean and clear windows?
- Julia Y., Ellicott City, Md.


Julia, this is an easy one. Mix 1 cup of white vinegar with 1/2 gallon of water, then put the solution in a clean spray bottle. Spray the window liberally. Dry with crumpled newspaper. If you like this easy and inexpensive solution, you’ll enjoy my six-page vinegar pamphlet that includes dozens of hints, from cleaning and deodorizing things like aluminum pots to removing pesticides from veggies.

To receive a copy, order it at www.Heloise.com, or send $5, along with a stamped (70 cents), self-addressed, long envelope, to: Heloise/Vinegar, P.O. Box 795001, San Antonio, TX 78279-5001.

FYI: Though there are many types of vinegar, including balsamic, wine, malt and apple cider, white vinegar is the cheapest and the best type used for cleaning. - Heloise


Hospital visit

Dear Heloise: When I recently went into the hospital, friends would call and ask what I needed. I said I’d love any travel brochures they could lay their hands on. This kept my mind off my impending surgery and helped me plan for my next trip. I liked it better than reading magazines that feature movie stars.
- Patricia D., Great Falls, Mont.


Patricia, what a great idea! You can lie back and visualize yourself on your next adventure. It helps you make plans and takes you out of the hospital atmosphere. - Heloise

Walking the dog

Dear Heloise: Last night, while walking my dog in our neighborhood, a car came out of nowhere and nearly hit me. The fault, however, was mine. I should have had reflective gear on myself and a flashing light on my dog. I will now, but it was a close call. Please tell your readers that many accidents can be avoided if people make themselves more visible when they’re outside at night. - Lewis G., Fresno, Calif.

Call me!
April 10, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about texting:

“Dear Heloise: It irks me when someone expects me to text an entire conversation, wasting up to an hour of my busy life, when a simple phone call would take care of it in less than 10 minutes.”
 - Kaye S., Springfield, Ill.


Kaye, I know how you feel. I’ve seen people driving and texting, looking down at their phones while crossing a busy street or ignoring a date while they text someone else. Cellphones are handy, but they should not take over our lives. - Heloise


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some other uses for back scratchers:

- Reach things on high shelves.

- Pull out items from the back of a cabinet.

- Remove leaves from gutters.

- Reach under a bed.

- Heloise


Lipstick on your collar

Dear Heloise: HELP! I went to kiss my husband and missed. I got lipstick on the side of my husband’s shirt collar How can I get it out? - Sherry L., Cocoa Beach, Fla.


Sherry, immediately place the stained area over an absorbent towel and saturate with rubbing alcohol (test a hidden area first to determine colorfastness), then dab the area with a cloth dipped in rubbing alcohol. You also may have luck with a pre-wash spray. Rinse and launder the shirt as usual.

In my Handy Stain Guide for Clothing pamphlet, you’ll find quick and easy methods for getting rid of the most common stains, such as baby formula, blood, grass, grease, wine and many more. You can get a copy by sending a long, stamped (70 cents), self-addressed envelope, along with $5, to: Heloise/Stains, P.O. Box 795001, San Antonio, TX 78279-5001. Considering what clothing costs today, it’s always better to try removing the stain rather than disposing of an otherwise usable garment. - Heloise


Cookie mister

Dear Heloise: My husband loves cookies, so I bake them fairly frequently. I’ve found that if I make a lot of dough, I can form the dough into one long roll, then freeze it. Anytime I want cookies, I cut off the desired amount I want to bake.

Also, if your cookies end up too brown on the bottom, lightly rub the bottom with your vegetable grater.
- Marcie H., Apopka, Fla.


Iron keeps clogging

Dear Heloise: I still iron my clothes, although my daughter says it’s old-fashioned. However, my iron keeps clogging up. Any hints for this? - Anne M., Bettendorf, Iowa


Anne, to keep your iron from clogging, use only distilled water, and make sure you empty your iron after each use. - Heloise


Baby jar lids

Dear Heloise: I have a terrible time getting the lid off a baby food jar. I’ve tried banging it on the edge of my countertop and running the jar under hot water, but I can’t seem to get some of the jars opened.
- Emma Y., Westover, Tenn.


Emma, when a baby food jar won’t open, try puncturing a hole in the lid. It will break the vacuum seal, and the lid will twist off easily. - Heloise

Toll-free mystery?
April 3, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about toll-free telephone numbers:

“Dear Heloise: Many companies do not provide toll-free phone numbers to call when you want to order something. They give you a website but not a phone number. Some of us do not have computers, don’t want to order online or don’t know how to use a computer. Please tell companies to keep a toll-free number on their products.” - Donna in Pennsylvania


Donna, we receive many letters from people who would rather speak to a person than place an order online. They may have questions that cannot be answered on a website or simply enjoy the interaction with another person. - Heloise


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some other uses for shower caps from hotels and motels:

- Cover bowls of leftover snacks: chips, pretzels and popcorn.

- Cover vegetable trays made before a party.

- Cover a hair dryer or shoes while packing for a trip.

- Cover pet ears while bathing them.

- Heloise


No thanks

Dear Heloise: I’ve noticed a new habit of couples who get married: They don’t bother to send out thank-you notes. Recently, two friends and I were invited to the same wedding, and two of us enclosed a self-addressed, stamped thank-you note with the wedding card and money. We both got our thank-you cards about a month later. The third person so far has received nothing in the way of a thank-you.
- Ruth B., Fort Wayne, Ind.


Ruth, a bride should start her thank-you notes within days of returning from her honeymoon. Thanking people for taking the time to shop for a gift is not only the classy thing to do, it’s just plain good manners.
- Heloise


Fortunate idea

Dear Heloise: I went online to learn how to make fortune cookies (it’s not difficult), and then on a piece of paper 3 inches long and 1/2 inch in width I wrote out fortunes, such as: “Temptation is sometimes mistaken for opportunity” or “Take a much-needed vacation to a sunny place.” I placed the fortune cookies in a basket on the table during dessert. It was a big hit because so many “fortunes” hit home with my friends.
- Mia D., Bristol, Conn.


Mia, what a clever and original idea! - Heloise


Memorable pillows

Dear Heloise: When my husband passed away, I took all his Western shirts and made pillows for my great-grandkids. I also gave each one a picture of him wearing that shirt when he was holding them through the years. To this day, they still treasure these pillows and the memories with him. Each one of them got a different shirt and photo. - Lylis Nelson, Canby, Minn.


Voice of the people

Dear Heloise: Why are so many people angry and vocal these days? It seems like no one is happy.
- Ralph T. (age 13), Darby, Mont.


Angry, vocal people make the news, but there are many happy people in the world. Make up your mind to be one of them. - Heloise


Sibling slights
March 20, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about people who blatantly favor one child over another. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: My mother and father always favored my brother over me, and it’s been a problem between the two of us all our lives. For example, they sent my brother to college, though he barely squeaked by in high school. I was fifth in my class of over 200, and they wouldn’t give me a penny to go to college.

“Now my mother wants me to move home to take care of them (they don’t need taking care of), while my brother lives three blocks from their home. I refused, and they’re angry about it. 

“Favoring one child over another child breeds lifelong resentment and usually ruins any relationship that might have been possible between siblings. The lingering resentment I’ve felt has made me grow closer to my husband’s family than to my own.” - Linda in Florida


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some other uses for pool noodles:

- Attach two pool noodles to the inside wall of the garage so you won’t damage the car door when opening it.

- Cut down the side and cut to fit a hanger to avoid creases in your pants.

- Cut down the side, then cut to fit over the springs of a trampoline.

- Heloise


Pre-wash spray

Dear Heloise: I used to have the recipe for your pre-wash spray, but I lost it in a flood. Would you please reprint it for me and others? - Katie T. in California

Katie, this has always been popular with my readers because it’s economical and easy to make. Here it is:|

Heloise’s Pre-Wash Spray

Mix equal parts water, household ammonia and dishwashing (NOT dishwasher) liquid. Place the mixture in a clean, labeled spray bottle. Once you apply this spray to a stain, wash immediately. Keep this out of reach of children and pets.

If you are looking for simple solutions to everyday laundry problems, you will like my pamphlet Heloise’s Handy Stain Guide for Clothing. To receive a copy, send $5, along with a stamped (70 cents), self-addressed, long envelope, to: Heloise/Stain Guide, P.O. Box 795001, San Antonio, TX 78279-5001. Or you can order it online at www.Heloise.com. Clothing lasts longer and looks better when properly cared for. My pamphlet also has hints for laundering special-care items and information on understanding care labels. - Heloise


Waste not

Dear Heloise: I use a concentrated liquid detergent for laundry, and I believe I’m wasting too much that’s left in the cap of the bottle. Is there a solution? - Toni B., Mendenhall, Miss.


Toni, if the cap is plastic, throw it in with the laundry. - Heloise


Shower captain

Dear Heloise: My shower curtain won’t slide across the curtain rod. It gets stuck, and I have to keep yanking it across. What can I do to fix this? - Joan R., Clifton, Mass.


Joan, rub a bar of soap or baby oil on the shower-curtain rod. - Heloise

Where are the nurses?
March 20, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about the lack of nurses in hospitals. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: I was a patient in a hospital recently and was appalled by the lack of nurses on staff. My nurse greeted me and told me to call her on my cellphone if I needed anything, then gave me her number and left. What if I had fallen out of bed, couldn’t get up and needed help or possibly had a stroke after surgery and couldn’t talk?

“Hospitals charge a hefty amount of money for patient care, but I don’t think we’re getting the care we need. It’s not that nurses aren’t trained properly, there just are far too many patients for the limited number of nurses available.

“There was a time when American medicine was the best in the world. But is it still? I have every reason to believe it’s gone downhill.” - Henry P. in Atlanta


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some storage options for tiny items like beads, sequins, snaps, etc.:

- Empty pill bottles.

- Foam egg cartons.

- A compartment organizer for earrings.

- Fishing tackle box.

- Heloise


Citrus squeezer

Dear Heloise: Want more juice from a lemon or lime? Cut the fruit in half, then cut off the bottom end and place in a citrus squeezer. - Helen B., Sitka, Alaska


Flag care

Dear Heloise: I put my outdoor flag in my washing machine to clean it, and instead it was ruined. It shrank, and a little of the red color in the stripes bled into the white stripes. How should I have cleaned it?
- Kay D., Columbus, Mo.


Kay, try to limit your flag’s exposure to the elements, such as snow, rain and wind. Wash by hand with warm water and a mild soap. Thoroughly rinse, and if storing, make sure it is completely dry. Inspect your flag often. If it becomes too badly damaged to be flown, dispose of it properly. Check with the Veterans of Foreign Wars or any veterans organization on how to properly dispose of an old flag. - Heloise


Scammer alert

Dear Heloise: There are a couple of old scams that your readers should be aware of and take measures to protect themselves. The “Can you hear me?” stunt is being used again. A caller assures the listener that this is not a sales call and will ask, “Can you hear me?” DO NOT answer. Hang up. They wait to hear you say “yes” and use your voice to OK credit cards and other purchases. The second scam is to tell you that your Microsoft license has expired. The caller will say to send a certain amount of money or give a credit card number and all will be well. This is a scam, and you should ignore it. Don’t speak; just hang up on them. - Walter D., Amherst, Mass.

Purchase your pets online?
March 13, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about hypochondria. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: Why is it some people love to talk about their aches and pains nonstop? Two of my friends seem to do nothing but complain about every little ache and pain. They weren’t this way years ago, but as they’ve aged, it’s the main source of conversation with them. I’ve tried changing the subject, but they go right back to complaining about their health. After whining about minor aches, they complain that their kids never visit them. They drive people away with their complaints. There’s an old saying, ‘No one wants to hear about your health unless it’s good.’ Even then, keep it to a minimum and don’t exaggerate.

“Instead of looking for the negative side of life, look for the positive, because it’s all around you. No one has a perfect life, and no matter how much you have, there will always be problems of one kind or another. How you handle those problems will determine how happy you are. Complaining about them continuously will leave you lonely and isolated.” - Margie in Houston

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some additional uses for baking soda:

- Sprinkle on carpets to deodorize before vacuuming.

- Use in place of toothpaste.

- Clean a stainless steel sink.

- Open a box and place in the fridge to deodorize.

- Heloise


Off the hook

Dear Heloise: In the Daily American newspaper in Pennsylvania, I read about a person who always got stuck hosting the big family gatherings. Years ago, I had that problem, so after a Thanksgiving dinner with everyone present, I announced that from now on, we would be taking turns hosting the holiday dinners. I now host only once every five years. For those who say they don’t have the room, I suggest they host at their church hall or community building. That means no more excuses! - Mary in Stoystown, Pa.


Mary, holidays are a lot of work, and everyone should pitch in and share the work or take turns hosting the events. This is especially true with large families. - Heloise


Mop head

Dear Heloise: The mop head finally rusted through and fell off, but the handle is still useful. I threaded a folded napkin in the top and now use it to clean the dust bunnies out from under the refrigerator.
- Norma C., Waterloo, N.Y.



Dear Heloise: My wife died a few years back, and I now cook for myself. I have a question about potatoes: The eyes and black spots - are they bad for you? And how should I store the potatoes?
- Robert C., Summerfield, Fla.


Robert, first, potatoes should not be stored in a refrigerator. Ideally, they need a cool, dry place, out of direct sunlight. As for the eyes and black spots, cut out the black spots. The eyes won’t hurt you. The black spots could be a bruised spot or a fungus, so cutting it out is a safety measure. - Heloise

Purchase your pets online?
March 6, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about buying and selling animals online. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: The internet has made it possible to buy and sell animals online, but there are too many scams out there to trust these people. They will:

- Show a picture of an adorable kitten or puppy, but often this animal’s picture is from some other website.

- Offer to use a ‘courier service,’ but won’t tell you which service. They rarely show a phone number on their website.

- Want money sent to them by Western Union, MoneyGram or some other service, and they may tell you to lie about what the money is for when you’re questioned.

- Have a problem once you pay. They can’t send the pet because the carrier demands insurance or medical clearance or some other bogus excuse.

“Please tell your readers to NEVER buy a pet online, or at least don’t pay until you have the animal in your arms.

“For more information, go to: www.ipata.org
.” - Michelle and Mike H., Defiance, Ohio


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some other uses for plastic place mats:

- Use to line shelves.

- Use under a pet’s food dish or water bowl.

- Place under the coffee maker on the counter.

- Put under potted plants to keep dirt and water off the floor.

- Heloise



Dear Heloise: A while back, you printed a story from a woman who hated robocalls. First of all, they take advantage of the fact that most people are courteous. If it’s a number you do not recognize, you can ignore the call. If you happen to pick up the phone, do not say anything - just listen. Oftentimes, our voice activates the robocall. When you say “hello,” the recording on the other end is signaled to start a sales pitch. - Francis T., Lincroft, N.J.


Francis, robocalls selling all sorts of products and services have cropped up around the country. One of the worst is the IRS scam, which has robbed the American public of more than $300 million, according to the Federal Communications Commission. Many of the people affected were elderly. - Heloise


Securing her purse

Dear Heloise: Whenever I shop in a store that has shopping carts, I always hook the child seat belts through my purse straps, just in case someone is tempted to walk off with it. Love your hints.
- Carol C., Eatontown, N.J.


Carol, be careful. Those straps can be undone very quickly, and it wouldn’t be difficult for someone to come along and steal your purse when your back was turned. You’re better off with a crossbody bag that you don’t take off and leave in a shopping cart. - Heloise


Utensils slide all over

Dear Heloise: All my cooking utensils get tangled up in a drawer. How do I prevent this?
- Carrie-Ann in Ohio


First, put a small hand towel or kitchen towel in the drawer and secure it with thumbtacks. Next, place all utensils upside down in the drawer. This should solve the problem. You also can use a rubberized shelf liner in place of a towel. - Heloise


Taxed out of house and home?
Feb. 27, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about escalating property taxes:

“Dear Heloise: All over this country property taxes are rising. I understand the need to pay for schools, fire stations and the police, roads, etc., but many cities are pricing people out of the housing market. This is especially true for seniors who live on a limited income and young married couples just starting out in life. Yes, we can fight the increase in taxes on our property, but I usually get a notice that my property taxes are going up a couple of days before there’s a hearing.

“Surely I can’t be the only one who objects to the estimated value of their home or the taxes the city feels I should be paying. I had hoped to stay in my home until I died, but taxes may make that impossible.”
- Grace R. in Texas


Readers, got an issue with the way or amount you’re taxed? Let us know. - Heloise


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Got leftover gift bags from the holidays or a birthday? Try these ideas:

- Reuse the bag to give a gift to someone else.

- Carefully open up the side and use as wrapping paper for small gifts.

- Use large ones to store blankets, pillows or quilts.

- Reuse to carry lunch to work.

- Heloise


Windows a streaky mess

Dear Heloise: Every time I clean my windows, I end up with a streaky mess! This is my first house, and I want it to look nice. - Imogene B., Allendale, Mich.


Imogene, try this simple, time-tested recipe for clean and streak-free windows:

In 1/2 gallon of water, add 1 cup of vinegar. Pour this solution into a spray bottle and spray liberally on the windows. Be sure to dry the windows thoroughly. Vinegar has so many uses in a home. It’s effective and economical to use. To get my pamphlet Fantabulous Vinegar Hints and More, with so many ways to use vinegar and some recipes on cooking with vinegar, send $5, along with a stamped (70 cents), self-addressed, long envelope, to: Heloise/Vinegar, P.O. Box 795001, San Antonio, TX 78279-5001. Or you can order it online at www.Heloise.com. This solution can also be used on mirrors. - Heloise


Potato problem

Dear Heloise: I placed two potatoes in my microwave oven to bake them. When I opened the oven door after they were done, the skins popped open. What did I do wrong? - Gale N., Jackson, Tenn.


Gale, before baking, try piercing the potato skins with a fork or making a slit with a knife to let the steam out. This should help. - Heloise


Lost my car

Dear Heloise: I used to forget where I parked my car when I went shopping at the mall. Now I always park in the same general area, and that narrows it down. If I still have trouble finding my car, I use the beeping sound of the door lock, and when I hear it go off, I follow the direction of the sound. No more lost car!
- Jacob K. in Boston


Iron is clogged

Dear Heloise: My iron is clogged. How should I unclog it? - Loretta K., Garner, N.C.


Loretta, pour white vinegar into the iron and let it steam for about five minutes. Then unplug it and let it cool down before dumping out the vinegar. Rinse the iron thoroughly by pouring water in and emptying it out.
- Heloise

Don’t wait to be asked
Feb. 20, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about offering help without being asked. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: Why do friends and relatives who know they have a sick or elderly friend or family member wait to be asked before they agree to help? They offer thoughts and prayers. While that is very much appreciated, they seem to forget that there are regular chores that a relative needs help with. The relative may be too proud for his or her own good and might feel that asking is admitting weakness. Sometimes the person wants someone to say: ‘I see your yard needs to be mowed. Would you let me do that for you?’

“Just open your eyes, folks, look around and see where there’s a need, and offer to help.”
- Karol K., Troy, Ohio


Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Out of wrapping paper? Here are some substitutions for gift wrap:

- Use an old map or a comic section of the newspaper.

- Use a bandana for smaller gifts.

- Use deflated, shiny helium balloons.

- Heloise


Mild abrasion

Dear Heloise: I save toilet-paper centers when a roll is finished. They provide excellent mild abrasion for things, such as scuff marks on wooden floors (especially ones made by rubber), by rubbing the mark with a flattened center. The centers, along with a liquid cleaner, are useful for cleaning ceramic stovetops. Woodworkers can use them on varnished surfaces, after all the sandpapering is finished, to produce a truly fine surface. - Jack M., Silver Spring, Md.


Unsubscribe to mags

Dear Heloise: I keep getting magazines I did not subscribe to, with some even "welcoming” me back! It’s next to impossible to stop this flow of unwanted magazines in my mailbox. Is there something I can do to make it stop? - Vicki S., Farmington, Ark.


Vicki, try this hint: Write to a magazine’s subscription department by email or a letter, and let it know that you do not want the magazine, you did not subscribe to the publication and you are canceling ALL further deliveries. Include your name, address and phone number.

Also, you can register at dmachoice.org to stop unsolicited mail. Go to the website for more information.
- Heloise


Seed starter

Dear Heloise: Here is an idea to start seeds in your kitchen and later to transplant them in your garden: Take the bottom of an egg carton, fill each egg slot with dirt and plant a seed in each one. The best place for them is on a windowsill. Water them, and later transplant the seedlings in your garden.
- Leigh H., Marion, S.C.

An age-old complaint
Feb. 13, 2019

Dear Readers: Today's SOUND OFF is about age discrimination. - Heloise

"Dear Heloise: I retired last year from a job I held for over 25 years. I'm in excellent health, and I want to work part time. Before I retired, I was a district manager and well-respected in my field. My resume was done professionally and mentions the awards and achievements of my career. The problem is, no one seems to want to hire people my age.

ÒI'm not alone, because I've heard the same thing from other retirees who want to put in an honest day's work but can't get hired. We'll work for the money that's offered; we'll show up on time and do the job. We have so much experience and numerous skills, but age discrimination is our biggest problem. Employers should really take a second look at retirees and give us a chance to show how loyal, trustworthy and reliable a senior employee can be when given the opportunity." - Roger H., South Bend, Ind.

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: For those who receive a daily paper, here are some suggestions for the plastic sleeves that go over the newspaper:

- Use as an umbrella cover for storage.

- Decorative outdoor banners can be stored in them.

- Slip over golf clubs for storing.

- Heloise

Improve your health

Dear Heloise: Improving your health is as easy as brushing and flossing your teeth, or so says my dentist. Is this really true? - Alicia V., Lincoln, N.D.

Alicia, yes, it's true. Research has found a link between oral care and overall health. Bacteria will in time build up in the mouth, making the gums susceptible to infection. Before long, the infection becomes gum disease, which affects the whole body. Your dentist can tell you more in detail.

Readers, I strongly suggest making an appointment with your dentist for a cleaning and X-rays to ensure you stay as healthy as possible. - Heloise


Dear Heloise: My daughter-in-law was given a medication for my grandson, and the nurse told her to give him 1 teaspoonful at bedtime. It's even written on the bottle's label. The following day, I noticed half the bottle was gone! My daughter-in-law had inadvertently overdosed my grandson, apparently believing that if a little is good, more is even better. Please tell your readers that it's crucial to read the prescription label, listen to the doctor's instructions and follow them to the letter. My grandson suffered no long-lasting harm, but not all children will be as lucky as he was. - Y. in Texas

Valentine's Day

Dear Heloise: How can I get my husband to remember me on Valentine's Day? He says it's a made-up celebration so shopkeepers can make money. He doesn't even give me a card. - Poppy in Washington

Poppy, it's time for a sit-down with your husband to let him know it hurts your feelings when he ignores you on Valentine's Day. Your husband will make points with you if he remembers to buy you a box of candy or flowers, or does some thoughtful gesture. - Heloise

All work and no pay?
Feb. 7, 2019

Dear Readers: Today's Sound Off is about an unethical practice by employers:

"Dear Heloise: In 1995, I went to work as a desk clerk at a motel. All I had to do was check people in or out and take reservations. Over the next five years, management kept adding more and more chores, until I was folding laundry, checking the pool chemicals, picking up the Christmas tree for the lobby, cleaning up the breakfast area, cleaning rooms the maids forgot to clean and even taking a co-worker to the emergency room at 2 a.m. All this with no increase in pay! It was blatantly unfair."
- Ann W., Fort Wayne, Ind.

Ann, we get many letters like yours every week. Employers depend on loyal employees to fill gaps where additional help is needed. Unfortunately, they sometimes neglect to increase that employee's paycheck or offer some kind of reward for these additional tasks. That's how they lose a valued member of their staff.
- Heloise

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some uses for plastic grocery bags:

- Use to double-bag wet kitchen scraps.

- Use outside to collect weeds and other debris in the yard.

- Slip over your hand and use as a pooper-scooper when walking your dog.

- Put shoes inside when packing for a trip.

- Heloise


Dear Heloise: My husband takes vitamins, and that's good, but I think he overdoes it with all the vitamin supplements he takes daily. What do you think? - Delores T., Boring, Ore.

Delores, too much of certain vitamins may cause health problems. Your best bet is to consult with your doctor on what vitamins your husband should be taking. - Heloise

Stay close to your grandkids

Dear Heloise: As a marriage and family counselor, I see a lot of families that have drifted apart, but none sadder than a grandparent who wants to be closer to the grandchildren. Whether they live in the same city or a thousand miles away, I always recommend calling the grandchildren frequently to stay in touch. Make your questions specific rather than open-ended, and have short calls rather than long ones, especially when the child is very young. Video calls also are a good way to stay in contact. Just be sure to never call after the child's bedtime or at mealtimes. - Marion B., Johnstown, Pa.

Makeup makeup magic for mature women

Dear Heloise: My sister reads your column daily, so maybe you can drop a hint for her. Her makeup makes her look like a clown, and at 53 years of age, that's not a good look for a professional woman.
- A Reader, Majestic, Ky.

A mature woman needs a light hand with her makeup: Soft colors and all blush MUST be blended and natural-looking. This really is a case of "less is more." - Heloise

Not so charitable
Jan. 31, 2019

Dear Readers: Today's Sound Off is a follow-up about resumes. - Heloise

"Dear Heloise: I saw a recent letter in your column about resume mistakes. I get resumes every day here in Human Resources, and I think about 90 percent of the ones we get are so poorly written, they're almost funny. But the seriousness of job hunting is NOT funny. There are thousands of people looking for work, so here are some suggestions to avoid common mistakes:

"Misspellings and misuse: Never misuse a word or misspell words on your resume. Example: 'There' for 'their' or 'to' for 'two.' Spellcheck is your new best friend.

"Lies: I can promise you, you'll get caught. Employers aren't gullible, and many now do a complete background and credit check. Didn't graduate from college? Don't say you did.

"Gaps in employment: Every employer wonders what you did if there are large gaps in employment. Did you use that time to acquire new skills or certification/training in your field? If so, add it to your resume.

"Limit your resume: Keep it short and to the point. One page is best, but NEVER more than two pages. Avoid slang and humor.

"DO NOT give out references (unless you're asked for them), list your hobbies or send a handwritten resume. If you want the job, a well-written resume is the first step to let your employer see your potential.
 - Wade M. in New York

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some handy uses for tall potato chip cans:

- Store knitting needles in them.

- Keep fireplace matches in them.

- Store uncooked spaghetti inside.

- Store beads, sequins or other small craft items in them.

- Heloise

A one-dish meal

Dear Heloise: My husband came up with this idea: Cook one box of macaroni and cheese. When done, stir in some lean chunks of ham. It makes a great one-dish meal. - B.P., Middletown, Ohio

The Land of Lost Socks

Dear Heloise: Whenever I wash my daughter's baby socks, they seem to get lost! Any hints on how to keep track of them? - Ava J., Rosedale, Md.

Ava, those little items get lost so easily! Just take a safety pin and attach them to a larger item, such as a towel. They wash nicely and come through the dryer without getting lost. - Heloise

Closet Problem

Dear Heloise: Help! My closets have a musty smell. How can I get rid of it? - Jerrie L., Raton, N.M
Jerrie, make sure your closets are well-ventilated by keeping the doors open at night or during the day while you're at work. Never put dirty or damp clothes in your closet, not even in a hamper. You also can try putting baking soda in a bowl or jar without a lid and placing it in a corner of your closet. - Heloise

Not so charitable
Jan. 23, 2019

Dear Readers: Here's another Sound Off about the phony calls people get. - Heloise

'Dear Heloise: I read in your column recently about scammers, and I thought I'd add my 2 cents. It seems like every other phone call I get is someone trying to get me to send them money or trying to tell me I won a cruise or a free this or that. These are all scam calls, and when I question them, they usually hang up. I got one the other day and told them I do not make contributions to organizations I don't know and certainly not until I investigate them. They look for people like me whom they believe are senile because we're retired, or in our 70s and 80s. Just because a person is over the age of 65 does not mean he or she is unable to detect a scam.

'Please keep all bank account information secret, and don't share information about credit cards with people soliciting donations. Instead, ask them to send you information about their organization.'
- Betty S., Newberry, S.C.

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some uses for the comics in the Sunday papers:

- Cover an old book.

- Use as wrapping paper.

- Use them to teach your child to read.

- It makes a terrific border for a bulletin board.

- Heloise

Reader not in agreement

Dear Heloise: I don't agree with a recent reader's letter about traveling without children and instead leaving them with grandparents. It's nice to travel, but take the kids with you. It's educational for them, and they enjoy time with their parents.

Too many people today rely on grandparents for money, baby-sitting, help fixing things, etc. My generation managed on our own, with little or no help. - A Reader in Indiana

I can understand wanting to get away for a trip with just the two parents and no children, and I also can understand the desire to take the youngsters along. How do you readers feel about this? Should children be included on every trip? Let us know. - Heloise

Adults only?

Dear Heloise: Regarding a recent reader's letter, the most tactful way to handle having no children at a wedding reception is that when your invitations are being printed, they should say at the bottom: 'You are invited to an adults-only reception at ...'

Printers do this all the time. - A Reader, Jacksonville, Fla.

Easy beauty

Dear Heloise: When I put on or take off pantyhose, I use plastic gloves. No nail snags. 

Also, when I pull on or off a garment over my head, I cover my face with a shower cap. No makeup stains.
 - Gail in Los Angeles

Not so charitable
Jan. 16, 2019

Dear Readers: Today’s Sound Off is about scammers who use charities to fool people. - Heloise

“Dear Heloise: Please warn your readers of the charity scams that are now very popular with thieves. Someone calls, is very friendly on the phone and wants you to donate to some worthy cause such as a children’s charity, homeless animals or some medical cause, for example.

“If they want you to donate, have them mail you information on their charity so you can think it over. Never let anyone pressure you into giving out personal finance details. Better yet, simply say, ‘I take no solicitations over the phone’ and hang up. Don’t listen to anything they have to say after your refusal to discuss the matter.”  - Frank H., Washington, D.C.

Fast Facts

Dear Readers: Here are some uses for old credit cards:

- Wash and cut into strips. You can use them to scoop out face creams.

- Use the strips as a replacement for collar stays.

- Remove a bee’s stinger by scraping the edge of a card across the skin at the wound site.

- Scrape gum off carpet or tile after placing ice on the gum.

- Heloise


Travel planning

Dear Heloise: When my husband and I got married, we decided that we would travel the world. We lived on his income and saved my earnings. At the end of the year, we sat down and decided where we’d like to travel. One year he’d pick a place, and the following year I would pick the place. The money left over was always invested. We’ve been married over 30 years, have seen the world and have a wonderful nest egg for retirement.

I recommend that all young couples who are planning to get married should sit down, decide what they want and work out a plan to ensure their dreams come true. Build some flexibility into your plans, and never mind what others are doing. - Hattie in San Antonio



Dear Heloise: We all know how expensive lipstick is today. Well, I usually scoop out what is left of my lipstick and put it in a small plastic tub from the dollar store. I microwave the container with the lipstick. This melts the lipstick, making it easy to blend colors. Use a lip brush to apply the new color.
- Myrna F., Lady Lake, Fla.


Myrna, it’s an economical and clever way to use all of your lipstick. - Heloise


Plastic vs. fabric

Dear Heloise: I know a lot of states and cities have banned plastic bags, and I understand their reasoning, but I can’t say I like it. I always reused my plastic bags, but now I’ve had to use cloth bags, which I don’t like. I have to make sure I have enough bags with me when I shop. I hate it. - Gloria J., Portland, Maine


Well, readers, what do you think about plastic versus cloth bags? - Heloise









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