The burning
question, one that keeps some of us awake at night, say, after a long
day of chasing down a little someone’s runaway math book, searching
high and low for a soccer ball, throwing up your hands at the latest
missing T-shirt, is this:
Is a knack for
being organized something a kid is born with, or can it — please!
— be learned? Prompted, perhaps, with a few choice doodads and
gizmos that come with promises of forever ordering your
discombobulated lives?
Next question:
How soon can we start?
Good news, all
you sleepless worriers. The answers: a) nope, don’t need to be born
organized; b) you betcha, you can teach it; and c) ding! ding! ding!
It is never too early to get your disheveled little darlings all neat
and tidy in an organized row.
Lest you fret
that trying to rein in a wee person’s loosey-goosey ways might be
ramming a round peg in a square hole, dampening some creative spark
from your budding Van Gogh, fear not.
"Kids
actually appreciate order," says professional organizer Julie
Morgenstern, author of "Organizing from the Inside Out"
(Henry Holt). "What you need to remember about kids is that their
worldview is fairly chaotic. If somebody creates order, it creates a
pause moment, a reset moment.
"Remember,
it’s all about enabling you to have an idea, execute it and make it
happen. It’s about setting it up for the next great idea. Show me a
human being who doesn’t love that springboard for creativity.
"Think like
a kindergarten teacher," she says, exposing her paradigm for the
organized life and the organized home, especially one where little
people roam.
Kindergarten
rules, in Morgenstern’s worldview. She calls the Land of the Bean
Table, the Paint Corner, and the Snack Nook "a model of
organizing" and insists they set the stage for lifelong learning.
"The two
givens of any kindergarten are cleanup time and ‘everything has a
place,’" she says. Both space and time management come into
play. You need to set up clearly labeled, simple systems, with a
particular place for everything. And you can’t shortcut cleanup
time. You need to build it into the pattern of the day.
Don’t confuse
"containerizing" with organizing, Morgenstern says.
"Organizing is a process," she insists.
It’s one that
ends, not begins, with nifty containers. If you’ve not weeded
through the piles — sorted, then ditched, donated or saved, and
finally tucked every last "save" into its very own
designated place — you are bound to return, like Sisyphus, to the
clutter zone.
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BUILDING BLOCKS
A parental
primer on kid organizing, courtesy of Julie Morgenstern:
Take it room by
room. Ask yourself: What are the activities that take place in this
room? Set up simple systems, with a designated place for whatever is
needed for those activities. See-through plastic containers, clearly
labeled, are smart building blocks. Home in on target zones, the
places in your house where kid work gets done: clothing, toys, school
materials, homework, lunch, after-school snack.
Store it where
you need it. Look to where the piles are, that’s where you might
need your organizing system.
Behold the SPACE
formula: Sort, Purge, Assign a home (where will it live), Containerize
(keep every category in its own separate container, clearly labeled in
words or pictures, whatever is age appropriate), Equalize (make a
daily ritual of putting everything back in its place).
Cleanup rules.
Set the alarm on your phone to clang five minutes before you need to
leave; make that cleanup time. Until you get the knack of cleanup,
give yourself 10 minutes to get the job done, then cut down to a mere
five.
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