your life with someone is a beautiful thing, but that
doesnít always mean you share the same design and
style preferences when it comes to your home. Whether
youíve lived together for one year or 20, use this
advice from highly rated interior designers to stop the
fights that have kept you from painting the walls or
tiling the floors.
Start with a design plan
Schavone, owner of Dťcor Coach in Apex, N.C., says to
make a list of how the room has to function for each
person before embarking on a design project. This will
help couples and families prioritize and understand why
one idea might be better than another.
realistically about how youíll use the space, along
with whether you have a big family or like to entertain.
Look through pictures online or in magazines, and talk
openly about your likes and dislikes.
Listen to each other
openly, and donít forget to listen. Interior designers
say the majority of their job comes down to listening to
clients. Sometimes your spouse or partner might just
want his or her ideas heard. Discussing concerns helps
to avoid conflict, and will help you determine what he
or she likes about a particular color, pattern or piece
Blend your design styles
home is like a marriage," Schavone says. "It
wonít work if itís one-sided." Not everything
has to match. There are ways to mix style preferences,
according to Schavone. This could be as easy as using
one personís color choices with the other personís
fabric selection. You want your new space to reflect
both of you.
Give and take to keep the peace
are usually places in the home where each person can
have it their way, says Kathy Tufts, owner of Beyond
Design in Clifton, Va., For example, choose neutral
themes and colors for your common area, but allow some
creativity in personal offices, bedrooms or hobby rooms.
Youíll have to compromise many times throughout your
life. This is good practice.
Hire an interior designer
in reinforcements often helps you see eye to eye, but
could cost you between $100 and $200 for an initial
one-hour consultation. "A big part of my job is
being a marriage counselor or peace mediator,"
agrees. "In listening to my clients, I detail whatís
most important," she says. "If I address the
important parts of their ideas, they can usually give a