Your friend asks permission to bring his or her dog to
your party. How can you set proper boundaries for the
dog without offending your friend?
possible, set the boundaries before the friend arrives
with the dog.
your friend to keep the dog on a leash at all times. The
owner has firsthand knowledge of the dog and should stay
close to it constantly.
the blame off the animal, and put it on your space or
young children by saying, "My yard is not secured
for dogs, and they could potentially escape." Or
"I would hate for a child to act inappropriately to
your dog and pull his or her ears or something."
that your friend bring toys and treats to keep the dog
from being tempted by other things at the party.
the animal needs reprimanding, pull your friend aside
and ask him or her to correct the behavior, rather than
commanding the dog yourself.
Rendy Schuchat, owner of Anything Is Pawsible
party guests who are scared or allergic to dogs, and
give your friend a heads-up, so he or she can avoid
fillers such as kongs and other toys are great ways for
the host to be proactive about pet guests, as long as
the provided objects are approved by the owner.
positivity to the situation by reminding your friend to
treat the dog for good behavior.
rewarding the dog for doing nothing — such as not
jumping or not stealing food — is an opportunity for
the host to keep both the dog and the owner on a track
all, find the nicest way possible to simply remind your
friend to be respectful of other people.
Brandi Barker, a certified professional dog trainer at
Barker Behavior Inc.
Graces is a series asking two experts for advice on
awkward situations. Responses are edited for space and