How do you tell your partner youíre not comfortable with
him or her kissing the dog on the mouth?
kisses on the mouth can be so laden with germs and
bacteria that a good toothbrush and toothpaste with a
mouthwash that contains antiseptic are required before the
next human kiss.
direct and firm with your partner.
him or her know that you cannot kiss the same mouth that
just kissed a puppy or a dog on the mouth, because you are
concerned about the transmission of unwanted viruses and
might say, "I know how much you love your dog, and
that is a wonderful relationship to have with your pet. I
am really concerned about you kissing the dog and then
kissing me. I need you to respect my feelings about
this." Add that you are not against petting the dog.
Jody Haas-Wolfson, certified dog trainer and owner of ROOT
research on whether kisses from Fido pose health threats
is mixed, but generally speaking, caution is recommended.
would suggest treating this like other issues that require
compromise in a relationship, especially with respect to
directly and openly with your partner about your
discomfort with dog kisses on the mouth, and the general
reasons behind what makes you uncomfortable.
people, especially those who did not grow up with dogs,
find their partnerís comparative lack of concern about
what a pet sniffs, licks or eats a bit too much.
something along the lines of: "I love you, and I love
the dog, but I think thereís an important difference in
how we express our love for our pet." Decoupling love
for the dog from the discomfort with dog kisses on the
mouth may make the conversation easier and more
constructive. A nonjudgmental stance would likely be
that your discomfort with such expressions of affection
doesnít mean you donít love and adore the dog.
Sensitivity here is key, and so is taking your partnerís
point of view. Keep in mind that, for many people, kissing
their dog is the same as kissing their baby.
Dr. Vinita Mehta, clinical psychologist specializing in
depression, life transitions and relationship issues