Pamela R. Matenaer,
Pamela R. Matenaer (nee Nothem), age 56, of West Bend, died unexpectedly
in an auto accident on Tuesday, Dec. 25, 2012, at Froedtert Memorial
Lutheran Hospital in Wauwatosa. She was born May 9, 1956, in Port
Washington, to Harold and Dorothy (nee Didier) Nothem. When she was 17
her mother died and she assumed the motherly duties for her younger
siblings. Her father then married Arlene Karoses (nee Heltemes) who
became Pamís closest friend.
Pamela married Michael L. Matenaer on July 1, 1978, at St. Maryís
Immaculate Conception Catholic Church in West Bend.
Pam graduated from West Bend East High School with the class of 1974.
She then earned a degree in psychology from UW-Milwaukee in 1978.
Following her marriage she focused her time and energy into raising
their five sons. Once her children were in school she earned her degree
in early childhood education and began teaching in the West Bend School
District as an early childhood special needs teacher and enjoyed
tutoring at St. Frances Cabrini School.
She was a very active volunteer with many church and community
organizations. She was active in the Special Needs Religious Education
program and the Holiday Food Basket and Giving Tree programs.
Pamís Catholic faith was very important to her and she was proud to
share that faith with her family. She was involved in the Women of
Christ Conference, devoting time in the Adoration Chapel and cooking for
the priests. She lived her faith daily by attending Mass.
In addition to being a devoted wife, she cherished her children and
their spouses and her grandchildren. While her children were growing she
could often be found pitching to them in the back yard and cheering them
from the bleachers at their games. She enjoyed walking and listening to
Brewer games on the radio and liked cross country skiing, bicycling,
gardening and organizing family events. She will be deeply missed by her
husband of 34 years, Michael, her five sons: Matthew (Rachel) of
McFarland, James (Mary Beth) of La Crosse, Paul (Meg) of Madison, Mark
(fiancť Vanessa) of West Bend and Peter (special friend Elise) of West
Bend; and nine grandchildren: Lucia, Lauryn, Audra, Monica, a grandchild
due in May, Sophia, Augustine, Felicity and on the day Pam was born to
Eternal Life her grandson Ignatius was born into this world. She is
further survived by her parents, Harold and Arlene Nothem of West Bend;
her siblings, Steve (Peggy) Nothem of Kiel, Wanda (Joe) Gindt of Green
Bay, Gus (Leann) Karoses of Kewaskum, Guy (Robin) Nothem of Maple Grove,
Minn., Laura (Steve) Nigh of Wauwatosa, Dawn (Dan) Mayer of La Crosse,
Mary (Craig) Hernikl of Menomonee Falls and Sherry Weissman of
Wauwatosa, her sister in-law Sherry Nothem of Sheboygan, her
father-in-law Norman and the late Genevieve Matenaer of West Bend, a
brother-in-law Dale (Debbie) Matenaer of West Bend, her sister-in-law
Cheryl (Steve) Beistle of West Bend and aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews
other relatives and many friends.
She was preceded in death by her mother, Dorothy Nothem, her motherin-
law, Genevieve Matenaer, and her grandparents, Leonard and Ella Didier
and Mathias and Clara Nothem.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be held Friday, Dec. 28, 2012, at 7 p.m.
at St. Frances Cabrini Catholic Church in West Bend with the Rev. Nathan
Reesman presiding. Burial will be Saturday at 9:30 a.m. in St. Maryís
New Cemetery. The visitation will be Friday at the church only from
3:30-6:45 p.m. In lieu of flowers memorials to St. Francs Cabrini Parish
The Schmidt Funeral Home in West Bend is serving the family.
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